tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post526645000753672938..comments2023-09-21T14:36:25.928+03:00Comments on The Blog of the Ugly Duckling: Sometimes Looking at the Bright Side is Not the Right Thing to DoRandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01375117075840591268noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-13126185408265113732010-07-16T17:30:46.342+03:002010-07-16T17:30:46.342+03:00Sorry if I forced you to mention that you faced th...Sorry if I forced you to mention that you faced this and you had bad experience. <br />But you r just one side here talking about two sides’ thing,, have you ever discussed this with your partner and told him that you feel this and this and you want a clarification from him or you just vanished away and left him? Surely he had something he had explanation for just letting you feel such ugly thing,, do you think he was – is satisfied and that what he was looking for? <br />I know that the signs were only from that article and this what am talking about, I cannot ignore your opinion which I like and follow ( and its obvious you had your own touches and this simply shown in every post you create) , but this not always the case, there are believes and trust, there is something called I know you and I trust you I can give you an excuse even I can’t support you to that limit I feel ignored frustrated angry ( whatever you call) but I know inside that you love me and wish to give me everything you can give, I forgive you for the bad things you did and for the good things you just couldnt.. I will not allow you to ruin this you should explain, come back as you used to be or I will leave… in our countries in our culture it is very hard to fall in love and break up three four times(with 4 persons I mean) so really when you are sure that this man loves you then he loves you he just can’t live without you could you simply forget that and consider you are suffering emotional abuse because of three or four signs of that article and just walk away, can you accept if he just did this to you? I don’t know how to explain this but I went through this with my lover, do you think I was happy with that surely not,,, physical abuse is obvious you can show it by your hand you can see it by your eyes but emotional abuse is just expectations ,,,, I faced this I cannot ignore, I used to be angry and annoying all the time but I didn’t know what to do, she left, leaving me was hurting but I believe if she just stepped up and discuss (even if she eventually left) I would feel more comfortable. Now I don’t, I still love her, does she know? Surely la2 she believes I’m ass hole, she regrets every single moment shared with me!!! maybe when someone mentions my name she says EE33 .. is it healthy to end just like this? What about all the moments kept in mind????<br />I think the abuse is a truly loved girl believes she suffers emotional abuse and walks away.<br /><br />thank you this is my first time talking about my issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-40669152639870889312010-07-16T00:24:08.207+03:002010-07-16T00:24:08.207+03:00The signs of emotional abuse are from the article ...The signs of emotional abuse are from the article but the rest of the post (i.e. most of it) was written by someone who has seen this happen too many times, me!<br />Emotional abuse is not something you agree or disagree with, it's very much like physical abuse, if I came and told you "a man beating his wife is called physical abuse" would you disagree? <br />Maybe I'm not getting your point here, so yeah, elaborate please, but keep in mind that this is my opinion and how I feel about these things, and it's not like I read the article on the website and believed it then copied it and posted it, I have my own opinions and my own experiences.Randhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01375117075840591268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-67345597583306636282010-07-15T23:42:43.403+03:002010-07-15T23:42:43.403+03:00100% disagree, articles are not laws, you read the...100% disagree, articles are not laws, you read these in lovesight.com!! i can find for you 100 websites say your wrong.. we can discuss if you wish.. ready?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-43956643390125467002010-05-12T13:50:45.878+03:002010-05-12T13:50:45.878+03:00I'm glad my post helped in a way or another. Y...I'm glad my post helped in a way or another. You're right we'll only find out that we can do better after we get out of it, and that's not just in relationships. Thanks for coming :)Randhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01375117075840591268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-16960798449171130692010-05-11T21:54:32.234+03:002010-05-11T21:54:32.234+03:00Wow I would say that 1-4 and #6 definitely charact...Wow I would say that 1-4 and #6 definitely characterized the relationship I just came out of....and you know what's really interesting? if you ask him he would probably claim some of those points and say that he was actually the one being emotionally abused by me.<br /><br />As I said in my post I feel slightly sad but more relieved than anything else, and reading this post just made me feel even more relieved LOL.<br /><br />I just wanted to add that alot of the reasons why we end up in these positions anyway is because we don't believe that we actually deserve better and we WILL get better.asoomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12570940229805213756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-60062755640721262662010-04-28T23:18:19.722+03:002010-04-28T23:18:19.722+03:00ra7at 3alena :).. i have a point view about this ...ra7at 3alena :).. i have a point view about this .. but its very complicated so i wouldnt say it :)<br />but in general arab ppl are far from haveing a developed relationships due to our semi closed society ... men dont know women and the oposit is true as well .. also the infusion of habits and riligion " somehow men twist religion to justify there actions " .. has kind of put relationships in a wierd place .. and i would say that the biggest looser of this are womens .. fa bardo " ra7at 3alekom " )zuhairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09347739746815243143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-66286920717693671672010-04-23T14:23:40.930+03:002010-04-23T14:23:40.930+03:00Anonymous i think ur being too extreme, lighten up...Anonymous i think ur being too extreme, lighten up :) i know many girls with very nice husbands and they're living the life they dreamed of. there is still hope la tay2as<br /><br />Mayasi, i'm glad ur relative eventually got to understand things, yeah it summarises many relationships that shouldn't exist!Randhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01375117075840591268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-2643601962429304742010-04-17T01:01:45.393+03:002010-04-17T01:01:45.393+03:00well v true actually
weired coz i have a relative ...well v true actually<br />weired coz i have a relative who is in almost same situation, after 5 years my relative came to relaise that her partner " ma befham"!<br />the rule of not hitting could be applied to my grandfather days, not any more right now<br /><br />well i read the introduction of John Grey's book "Women from Viuns, Men from March", he talked about his wife once telling him:<br />"u always good when things are good, and when i change you just walk away"!!<br /><br />does that summerize many relationships in our life?!<br /><br />-Note: not all the posts have to be funny, this is ur blog after all :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04807431160039637130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-36098881924545782102010-04-14T16:11:52.962+03:002010-04-14T16:11:52.962+03:00Rand,
I meant is there a women in LOVE with her N...Rand, <br />I meant is there a women in LOVE with her NICE husband? ever?<br />all love stories from women side are related to abusing men<br />and i know the heart wants what it wants, but jordanian women will only want brad or tom cruis, so arrogant when they are not that pretty, not that funny not that intelligent not very successful, just arrogant<br />all the respectAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-82701102769804489542010-04-14T13:00:41.277+03:002010-04-14T13:00:41.277+03:00Frank, I agree with you 100% it's all about th...Frank, I agree with you 100% it's all about the images we see and want to become, and we don't realize that these don't exist in real life. I do agree that the situation can exist in reverse, but like melicieuse said, i think they are too few, especially in Arab cultures.<br /><br />mel, i think it's not popular among men because females usually are more emotional, they dream of having a loving husband and a happy home more than guys do, they get carried away picturing themselves fairytale-happy, so they hold on to the smallest of hopes.<br /><br />Anonymous, don't generalize too much, there are nice men in successful relationships, what ur saying would mean all married men are bad people! and Im not saying girls are always decieved and men are the evil ones, i'm talking about something that may or may not happen to a woman, by a certain man and not all men, it's like physical abuse, a guy might do it, and another would rather die before he does, either way, if a girl does not want a nice guy it's her loss, and she's not worth it, but if she doesnt want to be with a certain nice guy then it may be sometihng other than that right? the heart wants what it wants :)Randhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01375117075840591268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-33578097419000568132010-04-13T16:08:57.991+03:002010-04-13T16:08:57.991+03:00Also, am sick of this stereotype, girls are always...Also, am sick of this stereotype, girls are always week and deceived, men are evil, please<br />plenty of nice guys...but then this is NOT what girls wantAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-84452291661074884992010-04-13T15:51:14.469+03:002010-04-13T15:51:14.469+03:00Rand I just wish every girl would think this way, ...Rand I just wish every girl would think this way, I really do<br />but the fact is and you agree with me, they don't<br />in fact, girls dig this abuse, they look for drama they love troubles and tragedies (even all of 'em deny it)<br />show me one guy in a successful relation who is being nice to his partner, if he do, she will end the relation or might only consider him a 'nice' friend<br />hope this changes...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-25840482349174842982010-04-13T13:57:48.193+03:002010-04-13T13:57:48.193+03:00ppphhheewwww good that you are not, those are terr...ppphhheewwww good that you are not, those are terrible and as we say love is blind so until those girls get their eyes back they wont hear a word you say, and the decision has to come from within so really nothing you can do but sit down enjoy the chocolates and wait for them with a box of tissues for when they come back to life<br />and yes Frank is right, it can also happen to men but either they are all to proud to speak up about it or there are too few situationsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-35733474528364094512010-04-13T13:11:04.431+03:002010-04-13T13:11:04.431+03:00Quite a thought provoking post today Rand. There i...Quite a thought provoking post today Rand. There is a cause and effect process here as well. Why is there emotional abuse here today as you describe it so well? <br /><br />There are many many reasons and from my own perspective some of them are a result of the lifestyles we lead. <br /><br />We are so distracted by the trappings of a modern world - material things, physical and mental expectations, social expectations that we have lost touch with ourselves, who we are and who we want to really be. The pressure is hugely intense and the problem is that we don't actually recognize it before it is too late.<br /><br />This leads to a deep level of frustration with oneself and the only venting possibilities we have are our partners. <br /><br />You paint a picture from a female perspective. It does exist in reverse as well, when a woman sees a man as a loser. <br /><br />We need to get back to basics sometimes and ignore that 95% of what is floating around on this planet are illusions. <br /><br />No health warning on those are there!<br /><br />Thank you Rand for yet another excellent post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-72876652066605877952010-04-13T12:44:10.065+03:002010-04-13T12:44:10.065+03:00:) lol, after the long silence mel has finally spo...:) lol, after the long silence mel has finally spoken. al 7amdulellah I'm not living this situation, but I know people who are, were or are going to be. but people don't seem to listen and always think you're either jealous that they're in a relationship, or that u hate the guy and want them to break up in any way :) but i will take the chocolate and ice cream advice thank you very much, welcome back.Randhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01375117075840591268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-630395087410578363.post-13993579235991922002010-04-13T12:37:31.065+03:002010-04-13T12:37:31.065+03:00ahhh my poor rand, in that situation there is no b...ahhh my poor rand, in that situation there is no bright side look at the dark side straight in the face and tell it you are leaving.<br />run and save yourself before it is too late and you are forever broken. i have a rule that if you argue more than 3 times a week and that every time you have to "give in" just to keep the peace then there is something wrong, if you cry at least once every single week then there is something terribly wrong. and sometimes some things can't be fixed or changed and instead have to be terminated and as quickly as possible to reduce lateral damage<br />good luck, be strong and get lots of ice cream and chocolate xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com